In a recent post, I reflected on the times when I’d followed the advice of two inspirational quotes. One encouraged me to take a leap of faith and say ‘yes’ to a work request- something that would require me to stretch out of my comfort zone. The other to say ‘no’ in order to safeguard both my time and my integrity.
In your career, it can be tricky at times to decide whether ‘yes’ or ‘no’ is the best response.
Experienced careers professional David Winter commented on my post by sharing three questions that had helped him with his decision making. The questions are valuable. Decisions can change the course of your career. Press ‘pause’ while you consider your ‘Sliding Doors’ options. I recommend them should you find yourself in a ‘yes/no’ dilemma.
The 3 questions
Question 1: How quickly could you learn to do x?
There is an element of pragmatism in question one. You may have the desire to do the thing you’ve been asked. But do you have the necessary time to complete the preparation needed?
If it’s something you want to do but the deadline is unrealistic- you could ask whether there is any leeway to enable you to have sufficient time to prepare.
If the time available will not give you sufficient time to deliver something of the quality required, then it’s better to be honest about this and either decline or delegate.
Question 2: How much would you enjoy learning to do x?
Question two is an opportunity to consider your reaction to the request. Do you feel excited, even though you may be somewhat daunted by it? If you’ve been asked, presumably the person making the request feels you have the capability or the potential to deliver. If you’re gut reaction is a resounding ‘yes’ then put aside any doubts and embrace the opportunity. Undertaking the task will enhance your knowledge, skills and understanding of a topic. It might be something new which could open up other opportunities. Learning only takes place when you stretch outside your comfort zone, after all.
If you feel your energy draining away as you think about what you’ve been asked to do, maybe it doesn’t align with your values or purpose. In this instance it’s better to decline or delegate.
Question 3: Do you know someone who could learn it quicker and enjoy it more than you?
Question three encourages you to take a step back to consider whether delegating the task provides someone else with a development opportunity. It’s a more altruistic way to consider the request. Perhaps it’s someone else’s turn to shine. You may not be the best person to complete it, so let go of any flattery you may have felt by being asked. The person who has made the request will be grateful that whether it’s you or someone else who is willing to deliver, that you’ve solved their problem.
Other considerations may impact your response. Have you been asked by someone you’re keen to impress? Will the opportunity enhance your CV? Will accepting the task get you where you want to go faster than if you don’t? Or is what you’re being asked to do a bit of a career red herring, leading you away from your intended direction?
Finally- if you can, give yourself some time so that your response is the result of careful consideration. You don’t always need to give an immediate response. You can simply say. ‘Thanks for asking me. I’ll get back to you shortly.’ Asking yourself David’s three questions will help you give an informed response.
The oldest, shortest words -yes and no- are those which require the most thought. Pythagoras.
